Dear Annie: I haven’t heard from a friend in months and I’m getting worried

Dear Annie: A lifelong friend of mine moved to Utah a little over a year ago with a man twice her age. They met in a similar career field and travel together. She helped take care of his 10-year-old son.

We were best friends throughout our childhood and even as we got older we remained close to varying degrees. Before she left, she promised to stay in touch and try to see each other when possible. We even met for lunch when she moved back to town a few months after the original move. We had a great time. At least, I thought I did.

I haven’t heard back from her since September. I’ve been texting and feel nervous about calling for some reason. My wife and parents say maybe the relationship she’s in is isolating her and she can’t reach out. It felt strange to be with such an older man, but my friend has always been a capable and independent woman, so I’m not sure.

Do you have any idea why it makes me a ghost?

Thank you. — Best friend forever from Colorado

Dear Best Friend Forever: The best way to find out why she hasn’t texted you back is to pick up the phone and call her. She is your best friend! This is especially true if you sense that something is wrong with her relationship. He would need a friend.

She could be busy taking care of his 10-year-old son. Whatever the reason, communication is the answer to your question. The best communication is face to face, but if you don’t want to make a trip, start with a phone call and not just a text. If she’s a true friend worth keeping, she’ll appreciate you letting her know how you feel. If not, then you’re better off without it.